SOLVING YOUR MARRIAGE PROBLEM

In today's living, marriages are faced with crisis ranging from minor to major. All crisis are created by man and can also be handled by man. For there is nothing that happen on its own. There are man-made. The ones which may be classify as minor though not really minor because of it inexplicable effect on marriage if not handled carefully includes: lies, disrespect, intolerance, lack of understanding, etc. whereas the major crisis include such things as: assault, wife battering, divorce, shifting of family responsibility to one person, neglect, lack of love, infidelity, secrecy, etc. Yet careful observation of the minor and major crisis, one will see that they could be avoided if spouses work collectively and honestly to settle them. Marriage is an institution which is meant for adult who are matured both in thought and understanding. However, many people enters into marriage as a result of age, finance and family status without necessarily learning tolerance and understanding which are salient properties for a happy and sustained marriage. This is because the man and woman are two different people before they were married, and are from two different backgrounds, and sometime, dissimilar cultures and languages. Culture and language has a way of influencing people’s life thereby impacting the nature of one’s personality. Thus with this awareness is therefore, a successful marriage involves two properties; 1. Tolerance 2. Understanding These two are embodied in love that without which it become impossible to show true love one to another. As we know, love without understanding and tolerance is no true love and so will soon degenerate into dislike and infidelity. Therefore, to succeed in marriage one must have tolerant and understanding. These two requirements are timeless as they help put behind one a partner’s fault which might in a way look extremely unpleasant to the other partner’s very eye. Love is burn from the heart, and since understanding is a thing of the mind; likewise tolerance. The way a spouse do a thing may not appeal or impress the other, and where there is no tolerance there is bound to be misunderstanding which breeds problem. It is understanding that drives tolerance between husband and wife. Where these properties exist in marriage there is bound to be effective communication in such homes, but the reverse is the case, there is bound to be problem and no communication. This can only be observed when spouses are willing to work collectively and honestly with one another without the tendency to maintain secrecy or other unhealthy atmosphere. Tolerance and understanding strengthens relationship and also help build affection, forgiving heart, one spirit and closeness. Therefore, in order for you to solve your marriage problem and enjoy a sustained and peaceful home, Understanding and Tolerance are required from you. they are the vitamins for a successful and ubroken home.

HAPPY MOM! HAPPY DAD

Marriage is an honorable institution, and whoever that is involve in marriage: either as a first timer or established couple, should know that he/she is involve in an institution that has operating standard. As an institution, it is a stand alone home created out of our biological homes in which the class of honor and glory inherent in it can not be overemphasized. Also as an institution, there are laid down standards for it success. However, failure to uphold these standard as there are responsible for a good marriage will bring against it marital setbacks such as disadvantaged relationship between husband and wife, dysfunctional children, lack of true love, heartbreaks, unfaithfulness, assault, failure, hardship, barrier, death, etc. More so, the failure of a marriage does not necessarily need be credited as being one person’s fault. For a marriage which fails is the fault of both husband and wife as they are acknowledge being one in Christ. However, the blessing of every marriage is crown with the fruit (children) it produced as scripture says “Lo, children are an heritage of the LORD: and the fruit of the womb is his reward.” Psalms 127:3 (KJV) Yet, this is seen as stage one of the promised marital blessing by GOD. Until the stage two is fulfill, such a home is only built on foundation that will never stand when the wind starts to blow. The second stage has to do with child training. Every marriage requires the fruit of the womb for happiness to endure in such home; “Her children arise up and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praiseth her” Proverbs 31:28 (KJV) And the fruits (children) of the womb need to be train “Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it” Proverbs 22:6 (KJV) So that the result which comes will both crown honor and glory to the parent “Thy wife shall be as a fruitful vine by the sides of thine house: thy children like olive plants round about thy table” Psalms 128:3 (KJV) God has announced that only through good and enduring standards this will happen. The standards and principles are methods carefully appropriated by parent that can help a child to stand in the defense of his/her life against the defections of present and future living. I have heard a lot of Moms and Dads talk about knowing the best scientific means of child training and I wonder what this mean. If any scientific mean ever available, then it should be you being the scientific means to training your own child the way you want it so that you do not blame another over the result you will get. For as much as I know, science is an art and art is the science of life. God has created you to be the art through which the science of your child’s life could be streamline. Parenting can be a tedious task yet, not however difficult. God will not give you a responsibility that is beyond your ability. Child training evolves around the dos and don’t as nature is admissibly irrevocable. You can switch behavior if you feel you are out of order but can really have difficulty in breaking nature after it is formed. IMPORTANT DEMANDS FOR CHILD TRAINING 1. God Almighty- The book of Proverbs 16:3 tells us to “Commit thy works unto the LORD, and thy thoughts shall be established” 2. You and your time 3. Your steadfastness WHAT YOU SHOULD GUARD AGAINST There are certain things you will need to guard against as a trainer, knowing how receptive children are. Do not say they get change when they grow to adulthood for what is build from that tender age is always difficult to part with. Therefore, guard against; 1. Unhealthy and corrupt communications 2. Impolite behavior 3. Your tongue 4. Impatience in their presence 5. Don’t be let out of action in their presence WHAT YOU SHOULD TEACH THEM 1. Positive communication 2. Discipline 3. Patience and temperance 4. Comportment and stability 5. Endeavor to solve their problem 6. Wise use of the time 7. Lead them to the Lord 8. Teach them to show appreciation, love through words and deeds If you must live and enjoy the labor of your hand through your fruits then you must be ready to build and tend them from day one and not necessarily wait until they have develop itching ears that can no longer endure sound advice. Know that children are fertile land and very receptive in nature and the kind of seed you sow in them can easily grow. Therefore, sow in your children good seed so that you may enjoy good harvest tomorrow. If this article from Your Home counselor is of help to you, kindly leave tour comment in the comment box so that we know how to serve you better.